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Your Hands Don’t Lie

The profound intelligence stored in muscle, tendon, and bone.

The air is thick with the low hum of electricity and losing bets, a sound you can feel in your teeth. He’s not watching the money. He’s not watching the faces, slack-jawed or sweating under the recycled air. For precisely 13 seconds, the pit boss, a man whose posture was formed by 23 years of standing on patterned carpet, watches the new dealer’s hands.

That’s all he needs. He sees it in the crisp, almost silent, cascade of the riffle shuffle. There’s no hesitation. He sees it in the pitch of the cards-a low, flat delivery from the thumb and index finger, each card landing just so, without a flutter. Her left hand is a platform, steady and quiet. Her right is the engine, all economy and grace. There are no wasted gestures, no flourishes that scream ‘new.’ Her hands say, ‘I have done this ten thousand times. I will do it ten thousand more. There will be no surprises.’ He gives a nearly imperceptible nod to the floor manager and turns away. She’s hired. Her resume was printed on a piece of paper in an office somewhere, but her interview just happened in 13 seconds of fluent, kinetic speech.

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Her hands say, ‘I have done this ten thousand times. I will do it ten thousand more. There will be no surprises.’

The Bookshelf, My Hands, and the Bitter Truth

My hands, on the other hand, are currently telling a much sadder story. They’re decorated with a fresh splinter under the nail of my right thumb and a smear of wood stain that won’t come off. They speak of ambition and catastrophic failure. They scream of a weekend spent with a Pinterest tutorial that promised a ‘ridiculously easy DIY bookshelf’ in 13 simple steps. The video was 3 minutes long. My attempt lasted two days and produced something that looked less like a bookshelf and more like a crime scene for lumber. I followed the instructions. I bought the specified tools, costing me a ridiculous $173. But the video left something out: the part where your hands actually know what they’re doing.

The vlogger’s hands moved with an unthinking competence. His drill sank screws in perfectly straight lines. His saw cut true. My hands, which spend most of their day typing, betrayed me. They felt like clumsy prosthetics I was still learning to use. The screw would go in sideways. The wood would split. The stain would drip. My hands told the truth of my experience: zero.

The Myth of ‘Unskilled Labor’

We have a tendency to dismiss this. We call it ‘unskilled labor,’ a phrase that is both an insult and a glaring falsehood. What we mean is ‘labor we don’t value.’ We’ve built a world around digital proxies-LinkedIn profiles, PDF resumes, online portfolios. We believe what the screen tells us. We’ve become disconnected from the profound intelligence stored in muscle, tendon, and bone. The knowledge that lives in the body, not just the brain. We trust the map, and we’ve forgotten the territory entirely.

Digital Proxies

LinkedIn, PDFs, Portfolios

Embodied Knowledge

Muscle, Tendon, Bone

It’s a peculiar form of illiteracy. We can no longer read the language of competence written by the body.

That’s a lie. I know it’s a lie the moment I write it. I spent 23 minutes this morning dissecting a candidate’s online portfolio, judging the kerning on their website’s header and the loading speed of their project images. I do it, too. I criticize the system while using its tools to make my own snap judgments. It’s easier.

Ancient Intelligence in Modern Hands

But then I think about Diana A.J. She’s a typeface designer, a profession most people would consider purely digital. She spends hours manipulating Bézier curves on a high-resolution monitor, nudging pixels into place to create the letterforms we read every day. You’d think her hands are just servants to the mouse and keyboard. You would be wrong. Before she even touches the computer, Diana spends hours with paper and a broad-nib pen. Her hand knows the feeling of an arching ‘n’ before the software does. It understands the subtle, calligraphic stress in the bowl of a ‘p’ because it has physically pulled that ink across a page hundreds of times. Her muscle memory contains a library of shapes and weights that a purely digital native couldn’t access in a million years.

Her craft didn’t begin with software. It began with the physical act of carving punches out of steel in the 15th century. It lived in the heft of lead type held in a compositor’s hand. Diana’s work is modern, but the intelligence she uses is ancient. Her hands are a direct link to that history. They haven’t forgotten. That’s the thing about this kind of knowledge-it’s not abstract. It’s earned. It’s paid for with repetition, with calluses, with frustration, and with the quiet satisfaction of a perfect joint or a clean line. This kind of physical literacy isn’t born, it’s built. It’s what separates the amateur from the professional who attended a dedicated casino dealer school to master the mechanics of the trade. You cannot hack this process. You cannot watch a 3-minute video and absorb the wisdom of 10,000 hours.

The Universal Language of Skill

We are all broadcasters. Your hands are telling a story right now. The way you hold your phone, the way a chef grips their knife, the way a mechanic’s fingers diagnose an engine by touch, the steady pressure of a surgeon’s hand. These are resumes, written in a language older than words. They communicate trust, experience, nervousness, or outright mastery. This is deep knowledge. A woodworker can tell more from the grain of a board by running their hand over it than we could learn from a 3-page chemical analysis. It’s a form of seeing that doesn’t require the eyes.

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Chef’s Grip

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Mechanic’s Touch

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Surgeon’s Pressure

I was talking to a luthier once, a man who builds guitars by hand in a small, dusty shop that smelled of rosewood and lacquer. He was explaining how he ‘tunes’ the top piece of spruce. He holds it by his fingertips, taps it near the bridge area, and listens to the resonant frequency. But he also feels it.

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He said, “My fingers know when the vibrations are right. It’s a liveliness. The wood tells you when it’s ready to sing.” He had been doing this for 43 years. His hands had their own intelligence, a partnership with his ears and his brain that was so integrated he couldn’t separate one from the other.

The Proof is in the Touch

We’ve forgotten how to watch. We look for credentials instead of competence. We read the job description but can’t read the person. The pit boss didn’t need to see the dealer’s certification card. He didn’t need a list of her previous employers. He saw the truth in 13 seconds because he knew the language. He knew what mastery looked like in motion. The effortless flow, the lack of cognitive load, the automaticity that frees the dealer’s mind to watch the table, track the cards, and spot the counter with a nervous tell.

Crooked

Hand-made

My bookshelf sits in the corner of my office, a monument to my own illiteracy. It’s crooked. It leans about 3 degrees to the left. But I didn’t throw it out. It’s a reminder. It reminds me that some forms of knowledge have to be lived into. They resist easy summary. They cannot be encoded into a keyword-friendly bullet point on a resume. This knowledge is honest. You either have it, or you don’t. There is no faking a perfect dovetail joint. There is no bluffing a clean card pitch.

Your hands don’t lie. And in a world saturated with digital noise, curated profiles, and carefully constructed narratives, that physical honesty feels more valuable than ever. It’s the realest thing we have. It’s the proof. I pick up a coffee mug from my desk, one I bought from a local potter. It’s heavy and solid. My thumb finds a small indentation near the handle, the clear mark of the potter’s own thumb, pressed into the wet clay before firing. It’s an autograph, a signature of skill left behind. A quiet statement of work done well.